Praise for Daphne Rose Kingma
Praise for When You Think You're Not Enough
“The Love Doctor has done it again! In her many books on relationships, Daphne Rose Kingma has written eloquently and wisely on love. Now she turns her attention to the relationship upon which all others are grounded—the love of self. If you're good at giving to others what you most need for yourself, please read this book. You are worth it!”
—MJ Ryan,
author of Attitudes of Gratitude
“This book speaks to our hearts and souls. Daphne Rose Kingma helps readers root out beliefs and behaviors that limit love of self and others and then, with gentle wisdom, guides us onto a more positive and empowered path. Once I began reading, I couldn't put it down!”
—Sue Patton Thoele,
author of The Courage to Be Yourself
Praise for The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart
“Anyone going through a dark night of the soul needs to have this book. It will be your closest companion and your most tender angel. Daphne Rose Kingma more than speaks to your soul; she knows how to heal it.”
—Marianne Williamson,
author of A Return to Love
“What if, during the worst times you can imagine, you felt a warm and steady hand on your back guiding you forward? What if it helped you remember to turn toward what can be possible instead of against yourself or away from what you are afraid of? This book is that hand. Read it and you'll live better.”
—Dawna Markova, PhD,
co-creator of Random Acts of Kindness
Praise for The Future of Love
“In this innovative book, Daphne Rose Kingma breaks down the popular myth of how love is ‘supposed’ to be by introducing us to a broad spectrum of intimate connections. She reveals how to work through the various confrontations that every relationship encounters and reach deeper levels of love and intimacy.”
—John Gray, PhD,
author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
“Deeply insightful and daringly fresh, this book takes a breathtaking step away from tradition and into the possibility of saying yes to the true and grandest desire of our being: to love fully.”
—Neale Donald Walsch,
author of Conversations with God
Also by Daphne Rose Kingma
When You Think You're Not Enough: The Four Life-Changing Steps to Loving Yourself
The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook
True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate
Weddings from the Heart: Contemporary and Traditional Ceremonies for an Unforgettable Wedding
365 Days of Love
The Future of Love: The Power of the Soul in Intimate Relationships
A Lifetime of Love: How to Bring More Depth, Meaning and Intimacy into Your Relationship
Finding True Love: The Four Essential Keys to Discovering the Love of Your Life
Heart & Soul: Living the Joy, Truth & Beauty of Your Intimate Relationship
This edition first published in 2018 by Conari Press, an imprint of
Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC
With offices at:
65 Parker Street, Suite 7
Newburyport, MA 01950
Copyright © 2000, 2012, 2018 by Daphne Rose Kingma
Foreword copyright © 2018 by Katherine Woodward Thomas
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC. Reviewers may quote brief passages. Previously published in 2012 as Coming Apart by Conari Press, ISBN: 978-1-57324-547-0.
ISBN: 978-1-57324-729-0
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data available upon request.
Cover design by Kathryn Sky-Peck
Cover art by Andrew Bret Wallis/Getty Images
Interior by Steve Amarillo / Urban Design LLC
Typeset in ITC Berkeley Oldstyle and House Industries Neutraface
Printed in Canada
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For Nancy who believed
For Mary Jane who insisted
For Wink who encouraged
and
For Leo who proved beyond the shadow of a doubt
It is difficult suddenly to put aside a long-standing love. It is difficult, but somehow you must do it.
—CATULLUS
Contents
Introduction to the Revised Edition
2 Why Is Breaking Up So Hard to Do?
3 Exploding the Love Myths: Why Are We Really in Relationships?
4 Charting the Life-Span of Love: Seven Relationships and Why They Ended
5 The Emotional Process of Parting
6 The Unconscious Process of Parting