THE HUNGER TO GROW
Retire? “No, I’m still hungry. What’s for dessert?”
Talents Passions Enjoyments
How to Enjoy the Dessert Years of Your Life
Peter H Nicholls
The Hunger To Grow
Copyright © 2016 Peter H Nicholls Adelaide, Australia
Cover Design – Candice Leathem
Published 2016 by DoctorZed Publishing
10 Vista Ave, Skye, South Australia 5072
ISBN: 978-0-9945542-3-9 (print book)
ISBN: 978-0-9945542-2-2 (ebook)
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my many teachers who, over the whole of my life, have appeared (and continue to appear) when the student is ready. You have opened so many doors for me, for which I shall be eternally grateful. Each of your contributions have made me a better person, encouraging me to develop my talents, unlock my passions and move out of my comfort zone in ways that I would otherwise have never dreamed of doing. Because of you I continue to enjoy the sweet life of my dessert years – a life that still satisfies my voracious hunger to keep on growing.
Other Titles
Enjoy Being You – How Leisure Can Help You Become the Person You Want to Be
How to Create Your Second Adulthood – Planning your transition from full time work to ‘whatever is next in your life’
Enjoy Being Proud of Who You Are: 52 Inspirational Life-Skills Messages for Teenagers
How sweet life is when your developed talents and passions satisfy your hunger to grow.
Preface
The whole of your life from birth to death – not just your working career life – is a continuum of progress, growth and self-actualisation. It is what nature always intended of you. But ever since the work ethic came into vogue at least a couple of hundred years ago, we have had drummed into us the belief that life, growth and development starts and ends with our working careers. Respected dictionaries still define ‘retire’ with terms like withdraw (from life?), retreat (into your shell?), stop (living?), and go back (to the past?).
One of the refreshing advances in 21st century society is that we have at last swept away these negative and limiting perspectives on when and how our lives grow, flourish and blossom. In my lifestyle mentoring business I searched for a new more positive phrase and came up with “what’s for dessert? I’ve finished the main course and I’m still hungry”. This phrase says it all.
Even that expression may just be a sign of the times. Baby boomers may well be the last generation to experience life in the traditional three stages – preparation for your working life - your working life and then a life after your working years. It happens already with eating – we no longer limit ourselves to a sitting of entrée, main course and dessert. We eat what we like when we like. Our perception of our traditional journey through life is going the same way with people deciding when and for how long they will work and in whatever order suits their thinking. We are beginning to live life on our own terms. No longer is life centred on work, though of course work still serves a vital role in giving structured economic and social value to our lives and the community that our work serves.
What do you want to do in your dessert years? What will be the unique ingredients in your recipe? You certainly want it to taste great, contains large dollops of passion, full of rich experiences, keeps you healthy and, best of all, satisfies your hunger to keep on moving forward, growing in mind, body and spirit, enjoyed to the last drop.
We live in a rapidly-changing, highly mobile society where individual creativity, innovation, challenge and the desire to keep moving forward is becoming the norm. Age means little now in our natural desire to unleash our talents, passions and potential. Structured work is only one way to achieve this. We are increasingly realizing that work goals limit us to the demands and expectations of bosses and clients. Life after the end of our working career frees us to express ourselves in our ways for our reasons and for our own unique personal sense of satisfaction.
The dessert years however are less about a period of time in your life. More they are about a change in your attitude towards what, for you, life is all about. The dessert years begin when you start thinking about (and gradually act on) a transition in your life’s priorities from doing what you have to do (supported by what you love to do) to doing what you love to do (supported by what you have to do). For most of us that transition begins to take place long before any thought of quitting paid employment. Usually it starts somewhere between the ages of forty-five to fifty-five.
SETTING THE STAGE
Imagine you are attending a live theatre performance divided into three Acts. It is interval, following the conclusion of the second Act and you are reflecting on the show so far. You feel that Acts One and Two have been powerful and thought-provoking. You are wondering what surprises the rest of the show might bring.
But this show is unique. There is only one performance…it is a play written by you and you are writing the script as the performance happens in real time…the actors are on stage waiting for their lines. There is no rehearsal and there is only performance – this is opening night and closing night all in one. And no one yet knows – not even you, the playwright – what the ending will be. And the final twist? You are the lead actor, the star of the show.
The play is called “Your Life”.
Act One embraced the early years of your life – the years that prepared you for work. The content of Act Two has been your working life. Act Three is yet to come and you wonder what surprises it has in store for you. Act Three may well be a long one. It’s up to you to make it memorable for you and for those who love you. You will want to feel that, at the end of “Your Life”, the rest of the cast and the audience alike will give you a standing ovation, acknowledging that you have given a performance they will never forget.
You have of course written many sub-plots along the way – getting a job, getting married, having children, retiring from competitive sport, adjusting to the kids leaving home, to name but a few. So in one sense the prospect of giving up fulltime work is just another sub-plot that you will have managed to live and grow through, just as you did through all the previous life changes. This one might seem different because work has been the centre of your life for so many years. Your job has defined who you are – in your eyes and in the eyes of everybody else in your life – at work, home and even at play.
Many people can’t wait to retire. You may perhaps have seen work as of little more value than enabling you to pay the bills. A few good things have happened and there were times when you really enjoyed it, but by and large you find work to be a necessity rather than a joy. On the other hand you may have embraced work as a key part of your personal life evolution, to the point that you don’t want to quit. This is especially the case if you have built up your own business and see it as your primary driver for living. You can’t envisage a life that doesn’t involve a working career.
I have mentioned two scenarios. Your experience might be somewhere in between.
Whatever you feel about work you will have done some financial planning for your later years. We all spend considerable time and money to make sure we have financial security during our dessert years. It’s just as