shared showers with the Polish women’s basketball team. They were excited about our American shampoo, and we were excited to be showering in the same room with six-foot-tall women! My teenage boy hormones appreciated that moment, but the rest of the trip only made me appreciate what I had in America. All I wanted to represent was a symbol of our country’s freedom and capitalism. My American wrestling dream.
We took a team bus through the countryside, passing farms that looked stuck in the previous century, until we reached the small town of Sieradz where we completed our training. We had plenty of Polish money, or złoty, but there was nothing to buy. We were hungry and tired of food like stomach soup and tongue, which was probably delicious to the locals but wasn’t exactly McDonald’s to a fifteen-year-old suburban kid from America. Desperate for something to eat and the comforts of home, we found an ice cream shop one night, but it only sold small individual cones, so we went to a hardware store and bought a bucket and paid to fill it with ice cream. The next day, we left for home, and I actually kissed the ground upon landing in the US. Then I went and found my friends and spent the rest of the summer drinking and smoking, which continued right into my junior year.
In high school, I’d stop drinking and smoking pot in season, but in the offseason I’d continue to train while partying. I’d smoke in the morning before school, at lunchtime, and after school. So did many of my teammates. We saw it as a badge of honor if you could wrestle, and even more so if you could wrestle and also party like an animal. In Falls Church, it wasn’t a big deal to become a state champion wrestler. But to achieve it while also being a top party animal gave you the highest esteem. We played hard and partied hard, like we heard Rick Sanders had, always trying to outdo each other. Our credo was, “It’s one thing to experience wrestling and do everything right and be good at it, but it’s another to experience life and be good at it.”
And I was. I won the Virginia state tournaments in my weight class the next two years and was the runner-up in my junior year at the AAU Nationals. As I won, college letters kept coming, along with phone calls. Scholarship offers poured in. Coaches visited my parents’ living room. They came to school and pulled me out of the classroom. They watched matches under the spotlights, impressed with my performance in front of rabid crowds. They offered me all-expense-paid visits to their schools. The NCAA allowed me to take five of those visits, and I availed myself of all of them.
First up was Michigan State. Though I had been drinking for years, I remember how mature I felt flying alone for the first time, ordering a beer from the Eastern Airline stewardess (I was eighteen, the legal age for drinking beer in Virginia back then), and looking out the window as we passed over my neighborhood upon takeoff.
I didn’t like Michigan State, but two things made the visit memorable. First, when I arrived at the airport in DC, I passed a newsstand and saw my current girlfriend, who happened to be a Ford Agency model, looking back at me from the cover of Washingtonian magazine. I still smelled like her from the night before! Second, I found myself in the company of many other top recruits. The university was hosting a battle between the USA Olympians and the mighty Soviets. I was staying on the same hotel floor as the Soviet team, and I am not sure what impressed me more: how they dominated our wrestlers, or how much they smoked and drank after doing so. These guys were bad dudes—communists, but still my kind of bad dudes. Wrestlers.
After Michigan State, I visited Indiana State. I went because it was close to Indiana University, where I wanted to visit a girl I liked, and I couldn’t afford to get there on my own. I drove to University of Maryland, because my dad was once a professor there, and nearby George Mason University, where the coach offered me an MG sports car to accept their offer to be an anchor for their new program. But I wasn’t interested in either of them. I loved Clemson, where they took me waterskiing and then to a disco and introduced me to the drunken crowd on the light-up dance floor. The University of Tennessee, where all the athletes lived in a tower with an amazing mess hall that served prime rib, also impressed me. I had pretty much settled on those two when my coach stopped me after school and told me another opportunity had come up, a big one. Penn State—the biggest wrestling power east of the Mississippi and the most dominant university in the most dominant wrestling state in the country—had called him. They were very interested in me.
One problem: they didn’t send a plane ticket. Instead they wanted me to drive four hours with my parents and stay the weekend. I’m not sure what I felt was the bigger slight: not flying me up, or having me bring my mom and dad. I was eighteen and had done all my visits solo so far. To me, it meant that I was an afterthought. I resigned myself to going—it was Penn State after all. I’d drive up in my parents’ station wagon. But I was not going to bring my parents. In the backseat were my cooler of beer and my bong. Riding shotgun was my oldest friend from public school and my wrestling teammate, Floyd. We had remained best friends since junior high, and while his dog Whitey still hated me, times had changed at school. As seniors, Floyd was voted “Friendliest” and I was named “Foxiest.”
It wasn’t hard to convince him to come along. I found him in the cafeteria and said something like: Floyd, come on! I’ve got the wagon with beer and weed and we’re going to Penn State to stay in a hotel while they show me around the school for the weekend. I’m not going to go there, but we might as well have some fun saying no!
I think he was in the car before I was. Road trip!
As soon as we got through the mountains of Pennsylvania and arrived in the Happy Valley, I realized why they asked me to drive: there was no major airport in this town. I softened my stance a little, and then a little more when I met one of the coaches, a two-time national champion. Coach also seemed amused that I brought my friend Floyd instead of my parents.
We headed over to the weight room to meet the Nittany Lion wrestlers. The first guy introduced to us was Dan. Dan seemed unintimidating—big hips but slight upper body—but Floyd and I knew we shouldn’t underestimate him. We had seen him wrestle a few months back, against the University of Maryland. Dan seemed surprisingly relaxed given his opponent was a beast, pacing back and forth behind his bench like a bull.
He slayed the bull that night, but tonight Dan saw only bullshit. He looked disgusted that he’d been assigned to babysit a recruit for the weekend. I told him not to bother, that we would show ourselves around. We had a cooler of beer and a bag of weed in the car to keep us company, and I wasn’t going to Penn State without a full out-of-state scholarship. Dan was taken aback by my bravado but warmed to the beer and weed.
Next thing I knew, we were at Dan’s fraternity house, which could have been used as the set of Animal House—the film came out that same year—with Big Dan a perfect fit for the John Belushi role. Hey, get a load of this recruit. He brought up his buddy and a case of beer. After a few beers and bong hits, someone said we should all go over to the Rec Hall wrestling room, where I ended up challenging Dan and a few seniors in my weight class. I did more than hold my own. Dan was completely won over, and I was too. I wanted to go to Penn State—if I got that scholarship.
I felt a connection that day I hadn’t at Clemson or Tennessee. I found myself drawn to more than wrestlers, parties, women, and the world-famous Rec Hall. I liked the fact that there were so many colleges and major options within the university. Yes, me: the kid who hadn’t read a book since sixth grade. When I told them I wanted to consider photography as a major, the coaching staff set up a meeting for me with the head of the photography department. Floyd and I spent the rest of the weekend bouncing between raucous parties at the frat house and winning over the team’s incoming head coach, Rich Lorenzo, at white tablecloth meals at the Nittany Lion Inn. I told him I loved the school and wanted to be a part of their great tradition, competing for a team where matches were packed with fans and where my hard work would be appreciated and honored. But I needed that full ride. The following day, he called with the offer.
Almost two years after I got my first college offer, I signed my letter of intent and became a Nittany Lion wrestler. That summer, I embraced that new identity as I prepared to make my last stand for Falls Church and win the high school national tournament in Iowa City, the tournament I had been runner-up in as a junior. I decided to skip my training in Falls Church and drove up to Happy Valley, with my throwing dummy “Bill” riding shotgun this time instead of Floyd. I was ready to work