eyes and ask yourselves. If you weren’t part of someone’s plans, you will feel the deep pain connected to this inside yourselves. It leaves a mark that affects the rest of your lives. The pain is extremely deep because it’s the very first pain of life that is experienced, but even this can be healed. These people act like children who have not received enough love and hold an overarching grudge towards everyone. They weren’t desired by their parents and feel as if the whole world doesn’t desire them either. They believe that no one will invite them into their game, and that in order to achieve something in this life they need to break through walls and locked doors.
If this is your story, then you have a lot of work to do on yourself. But start at least by accepting that since you’ve already been born, it means that the world called for you and wanted you, and that’s why you’re here. You’ve been sent down from nothing other than the sky itself and that’s why you are unique.
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A baby is not a way to keep a man by your side. There’s no need to keep anyone close to you by force. If someone wants to go, let them go. Let people be as they are.
Since when have we women started to run after anyone?
A woman’s nature is attraction. She just is and everyone comes to her…
If there’s already conflict between partners, a baby won’t resolve that. The conflict is between you two and no one else so resolve it between yourselves. Why tangle a third person into it, especially an innocent child?
If a man isn’t ready to take you as his wife i.e. not ready to take on the responsibility of marriage, can he be ready for the more serious responsibility of being a father? Do you even need such a man? Maybe there’s no point in wasting your energy on those who are not ready to be with you wholly and fully, with full responsibility, depth and totality. It’s better not to even start a relationship with men like that. Don’t get involved because we women easily get drawn into the vortex of relationships, but it’s much harder for us to get out of it.
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A child should only be conceived in love. Then it will be energetic, active and have a twinkle in its eye. Listen to your heart and your intuition; they will lead you to your other half, to the one who will become the father of your children. Believe me, if you meet him, you won’t walk past him; you’ll feel it straight away. Your heart will start racing, shivers will pass through your body and you won’t be able to think about anyone else except for him. You will recognize him… if you meet, of course. How?
Everything will be very simple. You won’t have any doubts. Your heart will know that he’s the one.
When I met Jonny I just forgot about everyone and everything. I was ready to go to the ends of the Earth with him. I would reply “yes” to every “yes” from him and vice versa. I was ready to marry him and have a child with him that very day. I’d never experienced anything like it in my life rich with experiences. I didn’t feel a trace of doubt. I saw that this meeting was the Universe’s generous gift to me for all my searching. I almost had to die, go to rock bottom to finally meet him. And it happened.
When doubts, arguments and criticisms appear, when you start to weigh up the pluses and minuses in a man, that’s not love anymore. Creating a child is a huge responsibility. But you need to go there through the Heart, not with mercantile thoughts about how much he earns, his IQ, connections, relatives… Listen to your heart. What does it feel? Be honest with yourselves.
And so, conception… Let’s go back to the magic music of two loving hearts.
During union a woman should be relaxed to fully open up to her partner, let a part of him into her sacred womb, open her heart to the flow of altruism, giving, generosity. The seed should fall on fertile ground which has been stroked to warmth by the sun’s rays and is moist from rainy orgasms. The man as gardener should take care of his woman – the Earth —throughout her whole pregnancy, watering her with attention and gently tending to her for the seed to germinate and turn into a beautiful flower; a child.
Healers say that it’s best to conceive during the waxing moon or full moon. We and all other beings on planet Earth do not live in isolation from each other; we are connected to the whole Universe and the events taking place in it, especially to the cycles of the Sun and Moon. Men are more connected to the Sun and women to the Moon.
There’s a legend that women came from the Moon and every month they pay her tribute in the form of their periods. When the Moon waxes events take on strength and energy and potential grow. The full moon is a time to see the results of one’s efforts, conclude events and to reap fruits from the harvest. A woman has the ability to change her monthly cycle and manage it. There are special exercises allowing a woman to make her period start or stop at any moment. To do this a woman must be very conscious of her centres, ovaries and be able to work with the power of intent.
It is possible to tune one’s cycle to the rhythm of the moon’s cycle. This gives a woman particular strength in her interactions with the world. Being in tune with the moon’s cycle means for ovulation to take place during the full moon. The egg matures during the waxing moon, which is a period of active growth, communication, creativity. Menstruation itself happens during the waning moon – a period of rest and relaxation where it’s better to be one on one with oneself. If this is true for you then conception will also take place during the strong phase of the moon — the full moon.
Exercises for couples
True love is always mutual.
My mentors in Mexico taught me that at the moment of conception all your cells should be activated, your intent should be completely pure and sincere, your consciousness at its peak to the extent that you can feel energy, be aware of your molecules vibrating, of the egg joining with the sperm. Then it will be a very vivid act and the baby will be imparted with a lot of consciousness and knowing from the very start.
There are special exercises that help couples feel each other better, tune into each other, become closer and connect in harmony: Ocean’s Breath, Energy Exchange, Joint Dreaming, Bridge between Hearts, to name a few.
Ocean’s Breath
Both partners sit back to back. One partner breathes in, gently curving their back and brings their chin to their chest. At the same time the other partner breathes out arching their back and brings their head back. Contact should remain between their two bodies.
Ocean’s Breath 1
Then they do the opposite; the first partner breathes out and arches their back, the second breathes in and curves their back.
Ocean’s Breath 2
And so the movements continue. They are carried out smoothly, one movement flowing into the other with each person fully in the moment, breathing deeply through the belly. In this meditation connect with the element of water by imagining that you are an ocean. Each inhalation and exhalation is the tide coming and going. Breathe through your mouth as slowly and loudly as you can, imitating the sound of waves breaking on the sandy shore. This meditative practice allows you to feel your partner’s rhythm and connect to each other not only on a physical level but also on an energetic level; the back is a more energetically open area in a person. We’ve already learned to protect each other from the front and wear masks while contacting the outside world, masks which sometimes become so strongly glued to our faces that we cannot even open up and take them off when talking to our close ones. That’s why we’re more open and unprotected from the back and touching back to back we can truly see our partner and discover their unmasked self.
Energy exchange
This exercise is for balancing out energy levels between partners when e.g. one partner has too much energy and the other doesn’t have enough. This technique will also help you calm down and feel balanced when one or both of you are tense, overexcited or emotional.
Men often have a build-up of energy in their solar