was some way to advance my knowledge. I was a pothead and a dope dealer, but I really did love music, and I wanted to be a great guitar player—I just had no idea how to make it happen. Eventually I struck up a friendship with Willow, who was maybe a year or two older than me, and the friendship evolved into something else. In exchange for free dope, Willow would give me free records. We’d smoke the dope and listen to the records while having sex at my apartment. Not a terrible arrangement, all things considered. It was Willow, after all, who gave me my first AC/DC album, a gift that kept on giving for years to come, long after we’d stopped having sex or even seeing each other casually.
I never labored under the illusion that I was anything more than a diversion for Willow, someone who shared her taste in music and didn’t mind trading dope for sex. But even at that age I had some meager standards, which bubbled to the surface one afternoon during a postcoital round of pillow talk.
“You know, my boyfriend likes it when I shave my pubic hair into a heart,” Willow said.
“Yeah, I noticed. Cool.”
“You know what else he likes?”
“What?”
She leaned over and put her arms around me, then whispered into my ear. “He likes to pour Al steak sauce on my pussy before giving me head.”
“Whoa…”
And that was that. Not even the prospect of an endless supply of records was enough to wipe from my brain the indelible image of Willow and her boyfriend and a big sloppy bottle of Al. We never had sex again.
WHEN BUSINESS SLOWED and my stomach rumbled, I had precious few options. I couldn’t really move back in with my mother—our relationship was simply too fractured, and her ties to the Jehovah’s Witnesses precluded accepting my increasingly decadent way of life. Salvation, then, lay to the north. Specifically, in a little town near Pocatello, Idaho. My sister Michelle had moved up there with Stan, who in addition to being a motorcycle cop was also a skilled carpenter. As tourism and an attendant real estate boom hit the region, work for guys like Stan became plentiful; he ditched the badge and uniform and went off to make some serious money. Tired of trying to support myself, and weary of the life I was leading at home, I called Michelle and asked if I could come up and live with her for a while. She graciously accepted, although strict parameters were placed on the arrangement.
For one thing, I had to get my ass back in school. I also agreed to get a part-time job. Michelle helped me land a gig bussing tables at a restaurant where she worked, a place called the Ox Bow Inn. My nephew Stevie (Michelle’s son) worked there as a busboy as well, so it was kind of a family affair. Stevie, though, turned out to be a real pain in the ass. He wanted to start a band but lacked the money to buy proper equipment. So he kept borrowing gear from other bands playing at the Ox Bow. There were a lot of people who weren’t best pleased.
That, however, was nothing compared to the grief Stevie caused me at school. Before I even arrived, he had spread the word about the imminent arrival of his uncle Dave, “the kung fu master from California.” Well, of course, I wasn’t a kung fu master; in fact, I hadn’t yet studied kung fu at all. I’d been taking martial arts classes* for about three years and had progressed to the point where I could handle myself in a fight, if necessary. But it wasn’t like I was a black belt or anything, and I certainly didn’t brag about it. The study of martial arts has been an important part of my life—spiritually and physically—for nearly four decades now, but I was nothing more than a novice at the time, taking classes to enhance my self-esteem and foster some sense of discipline in an otherwise chaotic life.
Stevie saw it differently, and so did everyone else. By the time I got up there, half the school was ready to fight me just for the sheer fucking sport of it. On the first day of school some dude walked by me at my locker and drove his elbow into my stomach. I was still trying to catch my breath when he looked at me and said, with a nasty, gap-toothed smile, “You and me, boy? We’re gonna fight after school today.”
“Who the fuck are you?”
He didn’t answer, just walked away, laughing, with a posse of rednecks.
Turned out his name was Wilbur. He was—I shit you not—the son of a pig farmer, which actually gave him a relatively prominent place in this particular backwoods social stratum. I had no way out of this. I had to take the bus home, and by the time I got on board, everyone knew there was going to be a showdown between the kung fu master and the pig farmer. Now, getting to and from school in rural Idaho involved numerous transfers and lots of bus time. My rendezvous with Wilbur occurred at one of the transfer points, while waiting for a second bus that would take me back to the mobile home where Stan and Michelle lived. Within seconds of getting off the bus, Wilbur and I found ourselves at the center of a big, heaving circle of bloodthirsty teenagers.
Damn it, I did not want this to happen.
Wilbur put up his hands, like some bare-knuckle fighter, and smiled confidently.
“Come on, motherfucker,” he yelled. “Hit me! Flip me or something.”
For some reason I heard that—“Hit me! Flip me…”—and the thought occurred to me that it sounded like the title of a punk song. A calm washed over me. The whole thing just seemed so ridiculous, me standing there in the middle of a bunch of strange, screaming kids, getting ready to fight this big Idaho pig farmer’s son. I thought I’d left California to get away from dangerous situations. How the hell did this happen?
“Come on, man! You gonna give me a karate chop or what?! Kung fu faggot!”
Stalemate. Wilbur didn’t want to hit me first because he was bigger; I refused to hit him because I had been taught by my sensei that I was to strike only in self-defense. And so it went, the two of us dancing awkwardly, until the bus arrived. We boarded, uneventfully, and the bus pulled away.
Crisis averted.
Or so I thought, until we reached Wilbur’s stop. As he exited the bus, he cocked his arm and drilled me in the back of the head with an elbow. I knew instantly I was fucked—and not because I was now compelled to engage Wilbur in battle, but rather because I’d worked up a sizable wad of chewing tobacco, a big chunk of which was now sliding down my throat. If you’ve ever accidentally swallowed chew, you know what came next. Within seconds I was incapacitated; by the time I got home I was vomiting from my shoes.
In response, I did what anyone in my situation would have done: I put a hex on the guy.
Well, maybe not anyone, but anyone with a sister who was heavily into witchcraft and black magic. Indeed, for me, this was the beginning of a very long and disturbing flirtation with the occult, the effects of which haunted me for years. At the time, though, it seemed just a handy tool to have at my disposal. Having been baptized Lutheran and harassed into stupefaction by the JWs, I was by my teenage years an empty vessel when it came to religion. Contrary to popular belief, while I did read The Satanic Bible I never became an actual Satanist—the whole concept seemed kind of silly, to be perfectly candid—but I certainly did dabble in the dark arts, and I don’t doubt for a second that it fucked with my head to an almost immeasurable degree.
I believed in the occult, and some people will say, “How can you believe in the occult and practice black magic and not be satanic?” Well, there’s a line there. Talk to anyone who has been involved in the occult and they will tell you that there are a lot of different factions for different types of magic. And as with anything else, there are good and bad aspects to the occult.
I only know that both witchcraft and the Jehovah’s Witnesses caused me a good deal of pain for a great many years. They’re different, of course. The pain from getting into witchcraft was residual. The pain of the religiosity of the Jehovah’s Witnesses, that was causal. It’s like when people say, “Hey, you’re on drugs, so your relationships are shitty,” and you respond with, “No, my relationships are shitty, and that’s why I’m on drugs.” Either way, you’re fucked-up.
But