Daddy. Tuhin Sinha

she begins hating during pregnancy. There are meat eaters who turn vegetarian and vice versa. These cravings have no logic and so you shouldn’t question them either. Blindly indulge her by making sure your fridge is stocked with all the things she feels like eating. It also might do her good if you too abstained from eating all the foods that make her nauseous.

      Having said that, you need to have a checklist of food items that your wife needs to avoid during pregnancy like greasy Chinese takeaway. Also, take her for long walks to keep her healthy and fit.

Pick up household chores

      Closer to the D-day, your wife would have become bigger in size and even mundane household chores become a strain on her. You’ll often find her laid up in bed or on the sofa, surfing channels. She’s more fragile, moves around lesser, and can’t lift heavy items. This is a good time to sharpen your cooking skills and if required, pick up some household chores like the ironing and laundry. Be on-call for back-rubs and foot massages and make her cups of tea from time to time.

Protect mother and baby

      We faced a few setbacks while trying to conceive. After a period of disappointment, when Ramyani finally got the good news, I made a pledge to her and our baby to protect them at all times. Since Ramyani had decided to work till the fag end of her pregnancy, I made it a ritual to drop and pick her up from work every day. At times it was a hard promise to keep, since I had many meetings of my own to attend. But I tried my best not to skip my duty; after all it was only a matter of few months.

      Since the distance between Ramyani’s office and our house was a mere 300 metres, her colleagues were curious about my sudden romantic gestures! But if you live in a city like Mumbai where the roads are pockmarked with potholes, you need to be doubly careful while driving around your pregnant wife. This gets worse during the monsoon when the lashing rains leave behind further damage in the already dangerous roads. There were times when I’d move slower than a bullock cart to navigate the bumps on the road. For those who think this is an over-reaction, let me tell you that every year several cases of back injuries, road accidents and miscarriages are reported. So tread very carefully during these months.

Sometimes you have to sit back and let go!

      Ramyani wanted to make the most of her career in her pregnancy months as she wasn’t sure of how things would pan out post the baby’s arrival. She had worked on two research papers which had to be presented in conferences hosted at IIM Bangalore and NIM Ahmedabad, respectively. The Bangalore presentation took place immediately after her mid-semester scan. I wanted to accompany Ramyani on this visit but if I went along, we’d have to stay at a friend’s place some 40 km away from the seminar venue. Ramyani was being provided accommodation within the campus and the headstrong lady wanted to stay there by herself and spend time in isolation. I had to reluctantly let her travel alone. She was away for only a day and yet my heart was thumping with worry. I’d call her every two hours to ask if all was fine. While I was sulking back home, Ramyani had a gala time in Bangalore with her friends who had come to meet her at the campus. Later when she took me through her photographs, I realised how she much fun she managed to have in those few hours!

Plan a baby moon

      If finances permit, make a small getaway in the early months of the pregnancy. This will help both you and your wife blow off some steam. It will also give you’ll time to leisurely plan for the crucial months ahead. Once the baby comes, you won’t be able to go on a family trip for a while.