is forewarned…and the more warned you are about where you’re not going…you need to have signs in your mind that say, Stop, go back, you’re going the wrong way. In the United States, they put those on freeway on-ramps so you don’t go on the wrong one and end up going against traffic. I install them in people’s minds. I say: You need a sign in your head that says, Go back, you’re going the wrong way!
Now, stop, go back, and remember that idea you just thought about, only just get to the sign at the entrance. Bad idea. Go back. You’re going the wrong way…now. And then see the signs of where you should go. Pleasure ahead. Happiness coming. Choices ahead. Past behind. Leave it behind, now, so when you go ahead of time—because it’s not enough to be in the now—you need to be ahead of the now, because the future is coming, the past is behind, so never, yeah, never do never again. Never forget what you shouldn’t remember. And always remember what you shouldn’t forget…now. And then you’ll do it correctly. Because, once again (I love that “once again”), you’ll find tomorrow is much better.
Yes to day (I love that one, too. That’s full of logical ambiguity, “yes to day”). And when it comes to hope, yes to day has no bearing. Now…
Notice how densely the language patterns are stacked. When you have temporal predicates and presuppositions, and when you stack presuppositions—at least three at a time—it becomes extremely difficult for the listener to track consciously, so it produces a very strong effect on the listener’s unconscious.
Another pattern I’m particularly fond of is “the more, the more” pattern. I use that one all the time, especially with negations stacked one on top of the other. “The more you try to stop yourself from preventing what you know that you don’t understand, the more you will, because, as you try to continue to not do something you won’t be able to not see what’s going on.”
The purpose is to overload the unconscious, and once that happens, the doors open up and you can flood in the suggestions.
I often say that I’m not a hypnotist so much as a “hypno-ranter.” Where most people are providing gentle, nondirective suggestions, I’m slamming things in from every side, and every way that I can.
Speaking to the unconscious processes inside somebody with semantic density is an art form. It’s almost like being able to write good poetry, but it doesn’t come from nowhere. It’s not an innate talent. It’s something you develop, and the way you develop it is through practice.
I recommend that you spend two days on one kind of syntactic environment and the next two days on another. You can refer to Resource Files 4 and 5 (pages 311 and 316) for further explanation and inspiration, but to be able to generate language patterns without needing to think about them, you should write down pages and pages of each pattern. Reconfigure your brain so that it all becomes familiar and easy.
If you don’t have a lot of examples of what makes things different, it’s very hard to make yourself familiar with it. Hypnotic language patterns, hypnotic states—these are the building blocks. If you didn’t know all the letters of the alphabet it would be very hard for you to write anything.
People often consider me to be a very complicated person. It’s true that I know a lot of really complicated things, but when I work with human beings, there’s nothing complicated about it at all. I have broken things down for years and learned how they work, and then I’ve practiced putting them into effect. I studied language patterns so that I can automatically and unconsciously generate them in many sophisticated forms. I don’t need to think about them anymore. I just do it, while keeping my eye on where I want to be.
These are the things that set people free.
Exercise 1: The Meta Model
1 Refer to Resource File 4. Begin to practice noticing Meta Model patterns, spending two days on each. Pay special attention to the language you hear, noting the violations that occur. Television interviews with politicians are a rich source of Meta Model violations.
2 As you become more familiar with each pattern, jot down some of the challenges you would use in a real-time situation.
Exercise 2: The Meta Model
1 Working with a partner, discuss a real or imaginary problem. The listener notes Meta Model violations and challenges them, always seeking to recover information that has been deleted, distorted, or generalized.
2 Change places and repeat.
Exercise 1: The Milton Model
1 Review the examples given in Resource File 5, then create at least twenty of your own.
Exercise 2: The Milton Model
1 Decide on an outcome you would like for a client. Choose three to five Milton Model patterns, and create a conversational induction by linking the patterns with conjunctions or temporal connections. Repeat the pattern three times, so that each induction comprises between nine and fifteen examples of hypnotic language.
Planning to Succeed
ALL THE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE I’ve studied share two important qualities: they know where they’re going, and they’re prepared to put in whatever work is necessary to get them from where they are now to where they want to be. This is what I would like readers of this book to develop, both for themselves and for the people they will be able to help: their friends, family, and clients.
Great golfers practice, practice, practice. Baseball players spend their time in the batting cages, having people pitch to them for hour upon hour upon hour. Professional musicians spend more time practicing than they do performing. I worked with a close-up card magician once, and he would sit there doing the same trick again and again and again. Interestingly, whenever any of these people make a mistake or fall short of their goal, they never complain that they were doing it wrong or underperforming, or failing—they simply laugh or shrug and do it again until they get it right.
The magician’s strategy was to make a movie of how his hands were supposed to move when the trick worked perfectly. Then he’d move around and step into the image—slide his hands into the hands that could do the trick perfectly—and try to replicate the action.
Most successful athletes do this, or something similar. They know what perfection looks like. They see it being done perfectly, then step inside it, and carry out the action, knowing they’ve succeeded when they get a good feeling.
It’s important to realize that they don’t feel bad when they don’t get it right; they simply don’t feel anything at all. But when they start to get it right, they feel good, and the better they get, the better they feel—so it builds an addiction to trying. Even if they only get it right one out of ten times, that feeling makes it worthwhile. They push right through the nine times for the buzz of the tenth. After a while, they get it twice out of ten, then four times, and so on, and they keep going because they become hooked on the good feeling.
By contrast, many people just feel bad whenever what they decide should happen doesn’t work out that way. This is why I often say, “Disappointment takes adequate planning.”
Unlike the failure-punishment approach to learning, attaching good feeling to action builds a feed-forward loop that gets people to improve their activity based on feeling better and better. When this strategy is properly in place, people don’t mind not getting it right the first time, or even the fourth time, because they know how good it will feel when it does work out.
What works for athletes or magicians works for all of us. We’re all playing games of some kind or another—work games, relationship games, parenting