try to make everything ‘exactly how I want it’ by applying the basic principle of, ‘wherever I turn, that’s where I’ll go, and wherever I put my foot on the gas, that’s where I’ll make a breakthrough’. Yet for some reason, the world does not want to yield to this principle. What is more, when a person turns in one direction, life carries them off in quite another.
It makes you think. Given that reality behaves in such a strange manner, perhaps we should take a different approach. What if life works in accordance with completely different laws?Yet people do not want to stop and look around so they continue to push hard ahead.
The result of this kind of ‘creativity’ is that you end up with a world layer in which ‘nothing is how I want it to be’. In fact, quite a lot turns out just ‘as I didn’t want it to’. How strange, moody and unaccommodating reality is!
One often gets the feeling that the world is doing it out of spite. Trouble seems to be drawn to us by some inexplicable magnetic force. Our fears are realised and our worst expectations justified. We are persistently followed by the very things to which we are adverse, and so try to avoid. Why?
The theory of Transurfing explains why it often turns out that, «You get what you didn’t want», especially if you desperately didn’t want it. Is there something you hate or fear with all your heart? Outer intention will give it to you in abundance.
The energy of thoughts, which are born from the unity of heart and mind, transform potential into reality. In other words, the sector in the variants space that corresponds to the quality of our thought waves can be materialised, if the feelings of the heart are one with the thoughts of the mind.
This is not the only reason our worst expectations are realised. A problem-free life is actually the norm. Everything in life should develop smoothly if you go with the variants flow and do not upset the balance. Nature does not like wasting energy and has no desire to create intrigue.
Unfortunate circumstances and events occur as a result of excess potential, which introduces an element of distortion into the energetic environment. Dependent relationships only exacerbate the problem.
Excess potential arises when some quality or another is attributed excessive, inflated importance. Dependent relationships are created when people begin to compare themselves, to compartmentalise and set conditions like: “If you do that, then I’ll do this”.
Excess potential is not necessarily a problem, as long as the distorted evaluation exists relative only to itself. As soon as the artificially elevated evaluation of one object is placed in comparative relationship to another, polarisation crops up which creates a wind of balancing forces.
Balancing forces try to neutralise the polarisation and, in the majority of cases, their impact is focused on the person creating it.
These are examples of unconditional potential: I love you; I love myself; I hate you; I don’t like myself; I am good; you are bad. These judgements are self-sufficient. They are not based on comparison or contradistinction.
Here are some examples of potentials built on dependent relationships: I love you provided that you love me; I love myself because I am better than the rest of you; you are bad because I am better than you; I’m good, because you are bad; I do not like myself because I’m worse than anyone else; you repulse me because you are not like me.
There is a huge difference between the first group and the second. Value judgments based on comparison create polarisation. Balancing forces try to neutralise the heterogeneity by the collision of opposites. It is exactly the same as when the opposite poles of a magnet attract.
This is why trouble creeps into our lives so intrusively, as if on purpose. For example, seemingly incompatible individuals unite as a married couple as if they were trying to punish one other. In any team, there will always be that one person you find particularly irritating. Murphy’s law or what we would call ‘Sod’s Law’ is the same principle.
Polarisation distorts the energetic environment and generates vortices of balancing forces, as a result of which, reality is poorly reflected as if in a distorting mirror. People do not seem to understand that the problem has arisen because of something that is upsetting the balance, and so they decide to fight the outside world, rather than eliminating the source of polarisation.
All it really takes is to fulfil the basic rule of Transurfing: give yourself permission to be yourself and allow others to be different. You have to let the world go completely, wherever it likes. Loosen your grip.
The more you insist on your own desires and claims, the stronger the magnet that attracts the opposite. This is what happens, literally: you grab the world by the throat and so it fights back, trying to free itself.
There is no point in pushing and demanding. That only exacerbates the situation even more. Instead, the rule of Transurfing requires that you consciously change your attitude towards the situation.
The fact that Sod’s Law even exists is a bit odd, don’t you think? Why should the world behave in such a bitchy manner? Or does it all come down to speculation and prejudice? There is no getting away from it; the tendency does exist. Fortunately, the Transurfing model not only reveals the reason for this pattern, it explains how it can be avoided.
The rule of Transurfing works flawlessly, and anyone who follows this rule will be freed from experiencing the kinds of problems that seem to appear in our lives without any particular reason. All you have to do is loosen your grip, stop ‘grabbing life by the throat’ and you will find it instantly becomes friendly and willing.
Those who don’t ‘let go’ will carry on like a magnet, attracting the opposite. The law of bad luck is not the only thing. The moment that opposites meet, their opposition strives to intensify further.
The well-known law of the unity and conflict of opposites, whose title is self-explanatory, is now basic textbook knowledge, just like ‘the Volga flows into the Caspian Sea, and the Mississippi into the Gulf of Mexico’. But it’s not quite that simple. Ask yourself, why should this law even exist?
The reason for the ubiquitous union of opposites is clear: by making them collide, balancing forces restore equilibrium. So why are opposing elements in a constant state of conflict?
You would think it would be the opposite; they collide, neutralise each other and calm down, but no, opposites go on ‘provoking’ each other until they get the opportunity to ‘fight’. Unless the bully is dragged away, the fight will go on forever.
There’s no shortage of examples. You know that life sometimes gets on your nerves a bit. Everyone experiences this in his or her own way to varying degrees. Basically, the essence is this: if right now there is something that is capable of throwing you off balance, it will appear as if to spite you.
This is what happens: If you are anxious, worried or down about something, your nerves will be tense, even just a little. Then, as if it were directly connected, a clown appears and starts jumping about and rattling on, winding you up even more. You get even more irritated and the clown jumps about even more frantically.
There are many ways of increasing your tension. For example, you are in a hurry and afraid you are going to be late. The clown claps and rubs its hands and cries: «Let’s go!»
From this moment on, everything starts to go against you. People block your way. They stride along with decorum but you still cannot pass them. You rush to get through a door but there is literally a queue forming of the laziest people in the world who are barely placing one foot in front of the other. The cars on the road are doing the same thing. It is as if they have all agreed beforehand to get in your way.
Of course, some things can be put down to perception. When you are in a hurry the rest of the world seems to slow down but the real telltale signs are when the lift breaks down, the bus is late and there’s a traffic jam. In all this, there is some ill-intentioned objective tendency.
I could cite other examples. If you are concerned about something and tense, people around you will always do exactly what irritates you and they seem to know to do it now, when you would most like to be left alone.
The children start misbehaving although