“Coach Joby Slay’s book unpacks the philosophy and practical applications of how to become leaders who get more out of themselves and the people they are responsible to influence. I’ve studied the science of coaching for twenty years at the highest levels and have watched Coach Slay implement his GET MORE ideas for multiple seasons, and the results speak for themselves. His teams steadily improve and have fulfilling experiences filled with lessons they will take with them beyond athletics. I’d recommend this book to any leader in any context but especially sport coaches.”
Dr. Chris Hobbs
Varsity Brands National Athletic Director of the Year, 2019
Coach & A.D. Magazine 40 Under 40 sports leader
“GET MORE FOR COACHES, written by Joby Slay, lays out a logical and uncomplicated approach for coaches to implement in their coaching style that goes beyond just developing a successful team. The book goes beyond coaching philosophy by introducing concepts along with examples that are easily adapted to a coach’s own approach and are sure to raise the coaches’ impact on the kids they coach, both on and off the field. The unexpected and beautiful value I found in Joby’s coaching philosophy is the combination of simple concepts that exponentially increase the impact that each concept in the GET MOR3EE formula has alone.
“Joby’s ability to combine the concepts, formula, and personal stories makes it extremely easy for me to take away actionable improvements to my own process when coaching kids. The book has a great combination of education, motivation, and humor. I recommend coaches and parents alike to read the book. For those who do read it, I am positive that the readers will take notes, as I found myself doing when reading GET MORE FOR COACHES and the GET MOR3EE formula.”
Andrew Mehalko, CFA
Partner, co-chief investment officer
Forbes Family Trust
3x NCAA Men’s Soccer National Champion, All-American and NCAA Tournament MVP, UNC-Greensboro
“Joby is an amazing husband, father, friend, and coach! Now, he gets to add amazing author to that list! Kids love playing for him, and parents are looking for opportunities for their children to play for him. My daughter was lucky enough to be on his team in recreation soccer a few years ago and had a great experience. She wasn’t the best player, but Joby helped her find her strengths, and she grew tremendously. I’ve been coaching middle school sports for a number of years and have led some of my teams to championships in soccer and flag football. However, after reading an early draft of Joby’s book GET MORE FOR COACHES, I’m going to be able to take my coaching to an even higher level.”
Jon Payne
Athletic administrator and coach
“Joby is the real deal! It comes from his heart, and I have seen him coach many different types of people, some harder to coach than others, but he eventually reaches them all with genuine connection, patience, and kindness. It’s so important to have a coach/mentor who believes in himself and also in those he helps. He gives 110 percent of himself, and I am sure he has completely changed some children’s lives for the better!”
Eliza Stephenson Meyer
Parent of former youth player
GET MORE FOR COACHES
Copyright ©2020 Joby Slay
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International Standard Book Number 978-1-988928-23-4 soft cover
ISBN 978-1-988928-24-1 EPUB
Published by: Castle Quay Books
Burlington, ON, Canada | Riviera Beach, FL, USA
Tel: (416) 573-3249
E-mail: [email protected] | www.castlequaybooks.com
Edited by Marina Hofman Willard
Book cover and interior by Burst Impressions
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Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication
Title: Get more for coaches : a championship coach’s formula for achieving breakthrough results /
Joby Slay.
Names: Slay, Joby, author.
Identifiers: Canadiana 2019020107X | ISBN 9781988928234 (softcover)
Subjects: LCSH: Coaching (Athletics) | LCSH: Motivation (Psychology) | LCSH: Achievement motivation.
Classification: LCC GV711 .S63 2019 | DDC 796.07/7—dc23
This book is dedicated to all the coaches who serve our communities and earnestly desire to help our youth of today and tomorrow get more out of their talent and potential. Your modeling of servant leadership and commitment to excellence will exponentially multiply the success of our tomorrows.
To Papa, the greatest coach I’ve ever known, and Gran, the coach’s wife. Thank you for leaving it all on the field for us and leaving an undying legacy by modeling integrity, honesty, and teaching. Thank you for serving and leading in the community, gifting compassion and coaching love.
CONTENTS
Coaching Plan: A Word for the Reader
Chapter 1: THE COACH’S POTENTIAL
Chapter 2: THE GET MOR3EE FORMULA
Chapter 5: R3: Responsibility, Respect, and Rewards
Chapter 12: BEWARE OF THE OTHER TWO E’S: EGO AND ENTITLEMENT