The Complete Guide to Children's Drawings: Accessing Children‘s Emotional World through their Artwork
prefers raising his child in a positive and joyful atmosphere, without quarrels or anger, but you must be aware of the thin line separating positive and negative stubbornness. This child’s resistance is an example of negative stubbornness. He takes his energies and spends them in a negative ways, doing things on purpose. His parents could teach him how to spend his energies in a positive way, empowering his positive stubbornness, which will later help him achieve goals in life.
Positive feedback messages delivered gradually teach a child to be in contact with his powers even when faced with complex situations. Proper positive feedback must include encouragement by the parent, showing confidence in his child’s abilities. The parent’s confidence will then increase the child’s confidence that he can succeed in the task. It is important to continue and challenge a child, until he himself adopts a behavioral pattern that will make him feel calm and confident in his abilities. In this case, the child’s independence is important for him, so it would be wise to reinforce this element in his personality, while weakening his negative stubbornness, which does not make for a healthy relationship.
Delegating responsibilities to children also helps boost their self-confidence and empower them. In my example, following the birth of the child’s younger brother, his parents could have asked him how he pictures himself as a big brother and what responsibilities he would like to receive with regards to his little brother. At the same time, it is important to give him the privileges of a big brother. For example, sitting alone with the parents when possible, just like they used to do before his brother was born.
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