Разрыв. Как пережить расставание и построить новую счастливую жизнь. Сьюзен Эллиотт

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      Морган Скотт Пек (1963–2005) – выдающийся американский психиатр.

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      Понятно, что дихотомия страдающая сторона vs бывший партнер может быть как парой «мужчина – женщина», так и парой «женщина – мужчина». Но для простоты изложения мы решили остановиться на одном варианте и выбрали второй. Прим. ред.

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