25 questions to know
someone better
Now imagine that you’ve talked to this girl a few times before, and you
think you have a lot in common. Try these questions to get to know her
even better.
1. When is your birthday? 2. Have you ever tried
out for a sport? 3. What’s your favorite color? 4. Have you
ever won anything? 5. Are you nervous about middle school?
High school? 6. Do you like to cook? 7. Have you ever lived in a
different state? Country? 8. Who is your favorite teacher? Why?
9. Do you collect anything? 10. What’s your biggest fear?
11. Do you know what you want to be next Halloween? 12. Do you
have any vacations coming up? 13. Where’s your favorite place
to hang out with your friends? 14. How many people are in your
family? 15. Do you have a favorite singer? 16. Have you ever got-
ten lost? What did you do? 17. Do you have your own computer
at home? 18. What’s your favorite thing to do? 19. Do you have
your own room? 20. What’s your favorite show? 21. Do you have a
dream job? 22. Do you like to ride on roller coasters? 23. Do you
ever write poems or stories? 24. What kind of books do you like
to read? 25. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
what to say
when you’re the
new girl
Starting a conversation takes courage. But here’s the thing—it only takes
one sentence to get the talk going. So start with your name and an easy
question. Then see where things go. It looks like this:
If you’re new in school
and want to meet girls
at lunch:
I’m Angela. How’s
it going? OK if I sit here?
If you just arrive at camp and
walk in the cabin to find three
sets of eyes staring at you:
Hi! I’m Christina.
So are the bunks first come,
first served?
If your teacher puts
you on a committee to
choose library books:
Hi, guys! I’m Olivia.
I love to read, so this
should be a lot of fun.
If you join a club, and you’re
asked to tell everyone a little
about yourself:
I’m Samantha,
I’m 11, I have one sister,
and I play the violin.
Take it slow. Never share private information until you know the
person better.
Share your point of view
Sharing your thoughts, feelings, and opinions about things will help your
friendship grow. By giving your point of view, you’re letting others get to
know you, and by speaking up, you’re allowing your confidence to shine.
I love the new
school mascot!
What do you think
of the new colors?
This is the best book
I’ve read this year. I’d
love to know what you
think. Would you like
to borrow it?
BIG IMPORTANT POINT
Part one of being confident is having a point of view. But
part two is really caring about what others think. So after you’ve shared, invite others to share, too.
what to say
when someone
else is new
Take the time to talk with someone new. If you’ve ever been “the new
girl,” you know how much it matters. So when you get the chance to
brighten someone’s day—take it.
If you want to meet
a new girl, and she
looks really shy:
Hi, I’m Bethany. Are you
finding everything OK?
If you want to meet the new girl
on the soccer team, but you’re
not sure what to say to her:
Hi, I’m Leigh.
What position do you
like to play?
If you want to invite the new
girl to get together outside of
school for the first time:
Do you want to go with me
to the school carnival this
weekend? It’s always fun.
If you want to welcome
a new girl to your
scouting troop:
Hi, I’m Kasia. Today we’re making
raffia flowers. Would you like
to sit with Ella and me?
If the new girl in class
is assigned as your
science partner:
Nice to meet you, Alex.
Have you ever had to make
invisible ink before?
Chitchatting Clues
Having a tough time getting the conversation started? Try this: Look
around you and find a person, place, or thing to talk about. Now, strike
up a conversation. Check out these examples.
I’ve never been on
an airplane before.
Have you?
I love horses.
Do you like
to ride?
Nice racket.
Hey, would you
like to play
sometime?