the Three Blessings
What Helps You Expand Your Thinking?
How Does Your Self-Concept Need to Change?
Seek Information Outside Your Box
What Other Resources Are Available?
Don't Go into the Wilderness Without Your Compass
Watch the Road, Not the Potholes
Make Deposits into Your Hope Account
Think Through the Implications
If You're Not Stretching, You're Probably Missing Something
Create a Change Masters Circle
Use an Inspiring Mantra to Keep Up Your Spirits
Focus on the Upside of Scaling Back
Allow Your Circumstances to Open Your Heart
STEP 4: STRENGTHEN ADAPTABILITY
IV. Twenty Quick Tips for Surviving Change You Didn't Ask For
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
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Welcome to “Permanent White Water”
It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
—Charles Darwin
THESE ARE CHALLENGING TIMES. If you're reading this, chances are you're confronting some change you never asked for—perhaps a loss of job. Or some dream. Maybe you have to learn to work in new ways or find a new place to live. I'm sorry if it's difficult. I'm hoping that within these pages you'll find the support and the practices you need to successfully ride the wave of this change, whatever it may be.
Take comfort that you're not alone. In my work as a “thinking partner,” I spend a lot of time speaking to people in all walks of life, from the CEO of a joint venture in Saudi Arabia to a stay-at-home mom who needs to enter the workforce. From where I sit, whether they are searching for a job, looking for funding for a startup, trying to stay relevant at age sixty in a large corporation, dealing with lost savings, coping with a big new job that has one hundred direct reports, struggling to get donations for a nonprofit, or fearing losing their home due to unemployment, people of all ages and walks of life are scrambling to deal with vast changes happening today in every part of the world.
Take the publishing industry, where I've spent thirty years, first as an editor of a weekly newspaper, then as an editor of monthly magazines, a book publisher, and now, for the past seven years, an author. None of the companies I worked for are still in existence. Neither are the distributors. One of my dear friends, a top writer at the Washington Post, just took a buyout because the newspaper can't afford to pay top talent—even the most prestigious papers are drowning in red ink. How we create, distribute, market, and promote media products is completely different from even a few years ago. Where it is all heading we truly have no idea. Phil Bronstein, former publisher of the San Francisco Chronicle, declared recently, “Anybody who professes to be able to tell you what things will be like in ten years is on some kind of drug.”
And that's only one corner of the evolving big picture. In 2006, creativity expert Sir Ken Robinson, speaking at the TED conference (Technology, Entertainment, Design) stated, “We have no idea of what's going to happen in the future. No one has a clue about what the world will be like in even five years.”
The only thing any of us can know for certain is that life will continue to change at a rapid pace because the world has gotten more complex and interdependent. Organizational consultant Peter Vail calls this “permanent white water,” referring to a time of ongoing uncertainty and turbulence. We can't see exactly where these changes are headed or where the submerged rocks are, yet when we're tossed out of