3 Short-Circuiting the Possibility of Love
Chapter 4 The Threat of Intimacy
Part Two Getting to Know You Spotlight on the Performer and the Audience
Chapter 5 The Performer—Intuition Backfires into Isolation
Chapter 6 The Audience—Resisting Care
Part Three Backstage The Inner Workings of Irrelationship
Chapter 7 Patterns and Pitfalls
Chapter 8 A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to Adulthood
Part Four Raising the Curtain on Recovery From Irrelationship to Real Relationship
Chapter 9 A Brand New World
Chapter 10 The DREAM Sequence: Step-by-Step Recovery
Chapter 11 Living the Dream
Chapter 12 Zoe and Victor Break Free
Part Five Encore Cracked Open for Love
Chapter 13 Cracked Open at Last
An Invitation from the Authors
Notes
Bibliography
About the Authors
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Acknowledgments Acknowledgments
Our agent, Gareth Esersky, gets first mention. She saw what this book was—almost before we did—and guided us through the surprisingly complicated process of bringing our relatively simple and straightforward project to print and to the public eye. She never wavered in her encouragement and her belief in the work’s value.
Gareth turned us on to Ilene Segalove. Ilene, an artist and writer of considerable note, made no secret of how taken she was with our project. From her first reading, she knew how to shape the text to make it readable and usable. Her generosity of heart and mind warmed and encouraged us at points when warm and encouraged wasn’t necessarily how we were feeling. Ilene also gave us insight into subtleties of the book’s revolutionary “self-other help” model, which nudged the manuscript in a direction we had not anticipated and much to its improvement.