>PENIS ENVY
Does Size Really Matter Or Is It The Size Of The Matter?
PENIS ENVY
© Peter Sacco & Jennifer Schott 2007
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PENIS ENVY
Does Size Really Matter Or Is It The Size Of The Matter?
Dr. Peter A. Sacco & Jennifer Schott
DOCTORZED PUBLISHING
www.doctorzed.com
DISCLAIMER
This book is in no way designed, intended or guaranteed to diagnose, treat or modify challenged personalities. This book only provides a light-hearted look at why some people are the way they are… not living up to their truest potential because they haven’t dealt with their penis envy!
In its truest form, this book is fun, comical, witty, charming, and entertaining. Since it was written by both a male and a female, the intent is to remain totally unbiased. The interests of both genders are taken into account throughout this entire book.
This book is in no way intended to be a put-down of anyone we know or have encountered in our research. In fact, it was you, the public at large, who shared your stories and insights with us via e-mail, chatrooms, seminars or in person. We only took the seeds of brilliance you planted in our creative minds, watered and fertilized them. The end result… this book!
Finally, it is highly recommended that you consult with an Introductory Psychology text when in doubt of specific theories or terms. The last thing we want to do is add further confusion to the already confused, and any degree of confusion to the not yet confused.
To all…Enjoy!
This book is dedicated to the many who shared their personal experiences with us. As promised, we changed the names to protect the innocent!
FORWARD
As a sex therapist/sex educator in the 21st Century, awareness about sexuality is slowly coming to the public. Myths are being slowly dispelled, education is paramount, and never before asked questions are beginning to be answered. Penis Envy by Peter A. Sacco PhD and Jennifer Schott is a sure walk on the wild side. The two authors present valuable information about what many of us have been questioning for years, but perhaps were afraid to ask. Politically correct has no place in Penis Envy but rather raw principles to age old concerns about behavior.
Penis Envy is an enthusiastic look into the minds of men and their idiosyncrasies. There are many unanswered questions about male sexuality that the authors directly confront in a real yet humorous way. It is also a unique tribute to the good old Sigmund Freud and his traditional theory about penis envy and women. Changed around just a bit, the authors enlighten readers as to why men behave in so many different ways when it comes to their sense of sexuality. Do they have a clue? Do we have a clue?
In an honest attempt to explain why men do what they do Peter and Jennifer make a traditional theory easy to understand and fun to read while the reader is able to apply the concepts to their real life circumstances. Penis Envy makes you wonder about a boyfriend who is obsessed with their car more than they are with their girlfriend. A boyfriend who would rather watch a sports game then entertain a sexual encounter with his partner. As well as the man who dresses ultra-feminine and yet believes he is heterosexual. You will look at why this happens and why this behavior is so common in our culture.
Although the emphasis of this book is on answering questions that have yet to be confronted in modern psychology there is a solid research-based mixed in with wit and real life. The authors Peter A Sacco PhD and Jennifer Schott can be confident that there will be many grateful and enlightened readers who will gain a broader perspective on the psychology of men, women, and relationships.
My hope is that this book will reach all of the people who ever had a question about human sexual behavior. Read on and find a world of useful, practical and fun information about sexuality. You will now begin the journey of understanding the elusive sexual nature of the human male. Hold on!
Dr. Debra Laino DHS, MS
Sex Therapist/Sex Educator
NOW INTRODUCING THE… PENIS
The brain is viewed as an appendage of the genital glands.
~ Carl Jung
Sigmund Freud coined the term “penis envy” while discussing the third of his 5 Stages of Psychosexual Development. He often used metaphors to emphasize how sexual differences occurred between males and females in their perceptions of gender. Freud offered the term penis envy as a literal and figurative expression.
When taken in its most literal context, penis envy implied the desire of girls to be boys. Boys possessed a penis and could stand when they had to pee. They could do their business quickly and be done with it. Unfairly, girls had to squat or sit. They had to invest more time and effort. Perhaps this interfered with playtime, which generated feelings of being left out.
Furthermore, Freud postulated that some girls were less than impressed with their genitalia. Boys had something they could grasp. It hung. It was long(ish).
The vagina, however, was a crevice. It was very hard to see. There was nothing to hold onto or be in control of. They felt cheated!
In the figurative sense, penis envy reflected the inequality between the sexes. Boys had a penis. Anyone with a penis was a man. Men were supposed to be the more powerful of the two sexes, the “potent” ones.
Since men were tougher, little boys were allowed to part-take in rough and tumble activities. To be loud and aggressive was part of being male. They could roll around in the mud, whereas little girls were forced to remain clean, prim and proper. Remember, cleanliness was next to Godliness in the late 1800s and early 1900s!
Things haven’t changed much when you think about it. The consequences of penis envy are for all to see.
Ever heard of affirmative action and equality in the work force? Where did this come from? Penis envy! Women wanted the same rights and the same pay as men because they weren’t getting it. Sadly, many women are still underpaid. This is not fair! Let there be penis envy!
What about socializing? When ever have you heard a drunken woman referred to as attractive or sexy? Men, on the other hand, get away with it. It’s a guy thing. In some parts of the world the “beer belly” is a given. Men even wear shirts advertising their beer guts! Ever see the ones with arrows pointing to the belly? Men are proud of it!
When was the last time you saw a woman with a paunch she was proud to advertise? Women go through the real tour of duty in getting pregnant and giving birth, perhaps the most beautiful experience known to