are in your skin is a great privilege! Make the most of it.
Comparison with others costs time and energy. It also causes worries, anger and headaches from time to time. Save all that. Just stand by yourself and do your own thing. So you will also find yourself with absolute certainty. Be proud of the person you are. If there is something else in your life that you want to change or improve out of your own drive, you can do it. No one's stopping you. However, the motive behind it should not be to become "better" than others or to create what others have already done before you. Your motive should be to become happier, more balanced and more self-confident.
12. Measure for more self-confidence: Go on a treasure hunt
Fancy a little treasure hunt with guaranteed success? The last method for a stronger self-confidence, which I present to you, is characterized by its immediate effect, which lasts for a long time!
In everyday life we are so busy pleasing others and comparing or even adapting ourselves that we completely forget to take a look at ourselves and our own lives. That's why it's so hard for us to see the good in it. You should change that! Take your pen and paper with you for the following exercise. Of course you can do it without, but even better results can be achieved if you put your thoughts on paper in black and white.
List what's good about and in your life. No, please don't let the pessimistic voice in the back of your mind say that nothing is good. There are good things in your life, of course. Let me give you a little hint: What are really good qualities of yours? What are the characteristics of your character? To what extent does this benefit you in everyday life? What unique features do you have? What sets you apart from other people? What valuable people surround you? How important are your friends and family to you? What successes have you achieved so far? What progress have you made on your own?
There are so many good things about you that you can be proud of. Be happy about the fact that you are independent, can provide for yourself and are a free person. Enjoy the people around you. You owe it to yourself that these are a part of your life. You invest your unique personality in these social bonds and are therefore rewarded with friendship and familiarity. Be proud of everything you have already achieved. What's happened so far isn't a coincidence.
Learn to appreciate the little things in life. Be grateful to be a free man in a modern part of the world. Everything we take for granted, such as a toilet, hot water or a kitchen in which we prepare our food, is an unattainable luxury for more than half (!) of all people. Lie down on the couch in the evening and watch a movie? Absolute luxury. Make a call and have a pizza delivered to your door? For most people, this is a dream that will probably never come true.
Yeah, that seems contradictory. After all, we were told earlier not to compare ourselves. But it is also important not to take anything for granted. Self-awareness also includes developing awareness and attentiveness for life around oneself. The more you appreciate all this, the more grateful you will be. They will be grateful to themselves for making this life possible for themselves. This results in more self-confidence and self-love.
Go regularly on treasure hunts in your life. Discover how much good there is. We don't see it every day, but as soon as we see it, it's good for our self-confidence!
With these 12 basics you are now well equipped to strengthen your self-confidence
The topic "self-confidence" is very, very extensive and could still be carried out forever. However, as this is a short guide, we will leave it at the basics and measures mentioned so far. What you have experienced may seem very simple in places, but that doesn't make it any less effective. The theory is easy to understand. What most people find difficult is the practical implementation. So be brave and open-minded. Don't underestimate the great effect of simple things. The participants of my coaching are always amazed at how quickly they achieve positive results if they get involved with the simple basics. All you have to do is be brave and take the first step.
With what you have learned in this guide, you can certainly build and develop a solid self-confidence. To make this easier for you and to refresh your memory a little, I will summarize briefly and crisply what we have discussed before:
1. You only trust people you really know, so you should get to know yourself better. Deal with your interests, wishes, strengths and weaknesses. Expand your awareness of yourself in the truest sense of the word.
2. Stop trying to please others and start to please yourself. Realize that you are responsible for all progress in your life and that it does not matter what others might think about you. In this way, what you actually want will come to the fore again.
3. Leave the nest of habits, people and activities that you have built up around yourself. The key to your happiness and self-confidence lies outside your comfort zone. If all this were within this range, you wouldn't have to search for it.
4. Take care of your body, because you have only this one. It is directly linked to your self-confidence because you identify with it. The better you are in shape, the more proud you are of yourself, your performance and your appearance. The more you pay attention to your health, the more you value yourself.
5. Smile as often as you can to infect other people and get positive confirmation. Recognize how good you look and strengthen your self-love. Always find a reason to be frolicsome and happy. So life can be enjoyed much more easily.
6. Learn to say no. Do not let your fellow human beings put you in unpleasant situations. If you concentrate only on what the others want, what you want will fade into the background. You're losing your confidence. So say "no" and invest your time and other resources in your own interests to get back to yourself.
7. Don't play roles in everyday life, so don't fool anyone. Especially not yourself. If you are dishonest to yourself, you are acting contrary to your true nature and thus moving away from your self-confidence. They rob themselves and others of the chance to discover the unique and special about them. Stand by yourself and always be yourself.
8. Free yourself from your fears. Do not let this restrict you in your everyday life. It may not always be easy, but it's worth it. As soon as you have the necessary courage, your self-confidence will grow with immediate effect. You will find the strength to overcome even more hurdles.
9. Get rid of what you've been putting off for a long time. No matter whether these are outstanding conversations with fellow human beings or unfinished tasks. A self-confident person always gets clarity about his life. By "tidying up" and doing things on hold, you learn to trust each other more. In the future, you'll think to yourself, "It's half as wild. I've done worse than this."
10. Promote your strengths and talents. Life is short, so why spend it on things you don't like? Do not believe in obsolete slogans, such as: "Self-praise stinks." If you don't believe in yourself, then who does? Why pretend modesty when you could have such a good time doing what you passionately love? It's good for your self- confidence!
11. Stop comparing yourself to others. It doesn't change anything in your life and it doesn't get you anywhere. Instead, discover your uniqueness and enjoy it. What really matters is what happens in your life. The more attentive and open-minded you are, the more self-confident (in the truest sense of the word) you will be.
12. Go on a treasure hunt in your life. Be proud of all the good you have already done and achieved. Feel gratitude for everything that cannot be taken for granted. This way you will feel more satisfied immediately. You are proud of yourself and increase your self-esteem.
You are now well equipped to strengthen your self-confidence. Be open-minded and energetic, then you can only win!
Closing Remarks
It's amazing: we pay attention to so many unimportant things while neglecting ourselves. We ourselves are the most important person in our lives. If we really want to love others, we must first love ourselves. If we want to help others, we must first be able to help ourselves. If we want to give others good advice, we first have to follow it ourselves. Everything good in life begins with and with ourselves.